When old issues from childhood come up to haunt you, remember that this is coming up for a reason. Get in touch with how you feel. Observe your thoughts and how you are reacting physically (are you tense and irritable? intimidated? ready to throw in the towel? angry and resentful?) See how much your thoughts are getting in your way of happiness in the moment.
Now…shift your body- change what you are doing. Leave the room perhaps, listen to uplifting music, if possible. This is a Tony Robbins’ technique that works– shift your body and it is much easier to shift your thoughts.
The point is to step out of the same ol’ story that, chances are, you’ve repeated in your head over and over. Or perhaps, you’ve heard your parents or family tell you repeatedly. Whatever the case, it’s time to shift and move on.
Focus on the breath; breathe slowing and purposefully. Chances are your stress is causing you to breathe shallow and, to move on, the deep breaths begin to change your mental and physical body and release blockages within.
Now, with a big inhalation, imagine opening your heart center.
Envision your heart as expansive and filled with love. Mentally go into gratitude.
Look around and think of all that you have, right now, to be grateful for.
Repeat positive affirmations- either silently or aloud- to replace the chatty negative thoughts of unworthiness, self-doubt, or fear that moments ago that were going on in your head….
Feel intimately with your heart’s inner knowing:
- I am safe and sovereign
- I am worthy of love, happiness, and success
- I am supported in all ways, in all circumstances.
- Abundance is my birthright.
If you find yourself unable to get through negative childhood experiences then, by all means, seek help from someone who specializes in inner-child healing. Psychotherapy, energetic cord cutting, forgiveness ceremony… all kinds of ways of releasing self sabotaging thoughts and patterns of behavior exist. Find a practitioner who specializes in this type of spiritual work. I enjoy facilitating such sessions because of their transforming results.
Many individuals feel defeated after they’ve dealt with childhood issues and, yet again, self sabotage shows itself. This happens particularly during family get togethers.
Do not dismay, if challenges persist. Especially if parents and family members are still a part of you life and continue to remind you of your faults or dig into old wounds. Holidays, in particular, tend to bring out the sore spots in our psyches. However, our expectations of family gatherings can make a difference in the outcome.
To help you cope during the holidays, remember…
Your soul’s destiny depends upon the lessons you learn, and that makes forgiveness a necessary component of stepping out of judgement. When you change your perspective of your role and also the roles of your parents and family, it makes forgiveness easier.
When each of us plans our reincarnation, we create our lessons and choose our parents, family and friends- our primary soul group- who will help us with what we need to learn when we “come in to this earthplane. Those close to us lovingly agree to incarnate with us and create the scenerio that we need to overcome what we will come to believe are our shortcomings.
With the illusory veil in place, preventing us from remembering who we are and whence we came, we tend to take our life’s experiences as a justification of who we are- not fully knowing the whole story. This change of perspective, far different from the traditional teachings of man experiencing only one lifetime and then facing heaven or hell, helps your mind to expand on other possibilities that not only make sense but help us to eliminate blame and victimhood. and embrace empowerment!
In these times of Ascension, everyone is having their “buttons pushed,” to make sure that old issues that we thought were gone, are truly transformed for good. These little tests provide us another chance to stand in our power and overcome whatever perceived blockages prevent us from getting what we want and deserve.
Boundaries are necessary, especially for our own well being. Knowing when you’ve had enough time exposed to self-defeating talk or, perhaps, destructive comments is crucial. Break free of any pity party, so that you step out of victimhood. Speak your truth with kindness and compassion. And stay free of judgement and criticism, lest you be the target of both in return.
Enjoy each and every moment of what is happening NOW. Even those times when you are tested- for ultimately they are gifts to celebrate your growth and expansion– and shift into higher consciousness and joy!
Happy Thanksgiving — and, oh, what blessings are yours!